As stated in a previous post...coping can be a learned skill if you are willing. If you are mentally ill that is different and you should seek professional care however if you are just at a loss and need help here are some tips and they may seem simple and silly however they work....I have been using these techniques and teaching others for over 10 years.
You are angry, petrified, and have no idea what to do. You are either just diagnosed for the first time or your disease has grown and you had no idea.
1. Get a paper ..pen...Ipad...etc..whatever and make a list of what you are feeling..please do it in list form.
2. Your second list will be what you need to do for yourself now. Also keep to list form.
Examples are on the emotional list...
1. I need to find a way to cope with my worrying and crying a good part of the day...how can I help myself? What could I be doing differently? Am I alone too much of the day? How could I remedy that? What group could I join or activity could I do?
As I said earlier in my own care I began conga drumming at the local cancer support center in 2002. It was amazing. I also joined an in person support group and a couple of those people I still know today!
Examples on the to do list....
1. I need to meet other folks with a similar situation to my own...how do I do that? I need to research my illness. I need to organize my paper work and finances. Need to review my health insurance ...etc
Get an accountability partner that you talk to everyday...this is not someone that you complain too...this is someone that reviews your "to do" list with you and helps you to accomplish your goals.
My goal for you is that you the patient, do as much for yourself as possible and then be able to ask for help when you need it. The sense of control and accomplishment will help you help yourself and others as well.
Happy Sunday! Step up...step out and get out of your head!
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